Holiday Bashes - To Be or Not To Be - Decide at a Moment's Notice, Really
Holidays - to be or not to be, that is the question. You can decide in a moment's notice. It only takes one moment to quit.
So if you're asking yourself...
To be a drinker on the holidays or not to be.
To get drunk on a holiday or to not get drunk.
When I was giving in to my demon, the thought (or question) didn't cross my mind at all. Back in time, for me, there was no question. The holiday was absolutely going to include alcohol drinking.
Instead, now I decide what I'm really going to do. This holiday weekend I fixed the door of my stove, and my big screen TV. I did a little website work. I took my daughter to Target for 3 or so hours to play. (That's a new thing I've learned, free play time in air conditioning with lots of stuff!)
More important to this topic of holidays... Many "problem drinkers" or alcoholics in denial simply LOVE holidays because it is a big reason to drink, and not just a little, drink a lot, and start early, end late.
Suppose I had a new a friend who was reaching out for help. However, a big holiday is coming and it's really hard to decide "to drink or not to drink". Alcohol won, and the stuggling alcoholic subdued, in fact turning off all communication for the three-day weekend. The binge had to be exceptional!
Alcoholics often do that. Once their mind is made up that their going to party for the holiday, it's no holds barred. Additionally, if anyone around them knows they were trying to quit, the answer is to stay away from them and turn off all communication. Once the alcoholic gets the first couple drinks down, it won't matter anymore anyway. They will not feel pain, guilt, sadness, or anything at all beyond a wonderful buzz and a carefree attitude.
I wonder why holidays always involve drinking?
One step in the right direction is this: Start your quitting drinking plan just before a holiday (this works great) and see what it feels like. After that, if you'll take the challenge, try going to a dance club and not drinking. Now that's fun.
In all seriousness, I feel bad for those who didn't win this past weekend. I have to say to you, that was the past. Today is a new day. (Reference my blog about the coffee cup I drink out of that says "today is a brand new day"!)
You can forget about guilt for the last weekend. You are forgiven. This is a new day, a new hour, and can be a new you. Remember, everybody who quit drinking did one of only two things, die or quit all in a moment, a split second. All that stood between me and quitting drinking was one second... one second where it all changed and I SIMPLY QUIT DRINKING. You decide if that day or hour or minute for you is NOW or not.
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So if you're asking yourself...
To be a drinker on the holidays or not to be.
To get drunk on a holiday or to not get drunk.
When I was giving in to my demon, the thought (or question) didn't cross my mind at all. Back in time, for me, there was no question. The holiday was absolutely going to include alcohol drinking.
Instead, now I decide what I'm really going to do. This holiday weekend I fixed the door of my stove, and my big screen TV. I did a little website work. I took my daughter to Target for 3 or so hours to play. (That's a new thing I've learned, free play time in air conditioning with lots of stuff!)
More important to this topic of holidays... Many "problem drinkers" or alcoholics in denial simply LOVE holidays because it is a big reason to drink, and not just a little, drink a lot, and start early, end late.
Suppose I had a new a friend who was reaching out for help. However, a big holiday is coming and it's really hard to decide "to drink or not to drink". Alcohol won, and the stuggling alcoholic subdued, in fact turning off all communication for the three-day weekend. The binge had to be exceptional!
Alcoholics often do that. Once their mind is made up that their going to party for the holiday, it's no holds barred. Additionally, if anyone around them knows they were trying to quit, the answer is to stay away from them and turn off all communication. Once the alcoholic gets the first couple drinks down, it won't matter anymore anyway. They will not feel pain, guilt, sadness, or anything at all beyond a wonderful buzz and a carefree attitude.
I wonder why holidays always involve drinking?
One step in the right direction is this: Start your quitting drinking plan just before a holiday (this works great) and see what it feels like. After that, if you'll take the challenge, try going to a dance club and not drinking. Now that's fun.
In all seriousness, I feel bad for those who didn't win this past weekend. I have to say to you, that was the past. Today is a new day. (Reference my blog about the coffee cup I drink out of that says "today is a brand new day"!)
You can forget about guilt for the last weekend. You are forgiven. This is a new day, a new hour, and can be a new you. Remember, everybody who quit drinking did one of only two things, die or quit all in a moment, a split second. All that stood between me and quitting drinking was one second... one second where it all changed and I SIMPLY QUIT DRINKING. You decide if that day or hour or minute for you is NOW or not.
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